He's just not that into you
är precis vad logiken säger. Det är också vad min senaste bok säger. Har inte läst så mycket av den än så länge - men den är väl rätt så ok. Inte alls vad jag förväntade mig bara. Den utgår mer ifrån en traditionell (och förlegad) syn på förhållande. En tjej ska aldrig behöva anstränga sig, hon ska bara sitta fint och vänta på att bli utbjuden. Inte riktigt min stil om man säger så. Vill man ha något får man väl för tusan jobba för det. Och ifall inte vi ska göra något - vad är det då som säger att killarna måste göra något?! Nej, med en sådan gammaldags syn skulle det aldrig bli nån action i dagens samhälle!
What if you meet someone that you have a medium-interest in, but he on the other hand has managed to develop a pretty big interest in you. Maybe you think that if he sees something so great between you and is willing to go through a lot of hazzle - perhaps you should give it a shot? He could have found something that you're just so cynical to see. You risk a try, which goes by and you still don't feel a thing. You definitely should have gone with your basic instinct... I was there last fall, I gave it a try but it didn't change a single thing. There was nothing to get. I wouldn't say I regret it, because it taught me to trust myself. If I don't see a relationship in the future with a guy, then trust it, don't do it just for his sake!
But what if the roles are the opposite? You're this girl who has a major interest in a guy which shows you no sign, what so ever, on a mutual feeling. Should you push him? Push him into giving it a try, even if he doesn't really want to? Or should you just leave him alone? And if it really is the deal everybody says it is: He's just shy, give him time, you both miss out on something great. Or you've just spared yourself a heartbreak... But what if you really make an effort to get to know him and when you finally do it's just to realize that his nothing for you? And you'll be responsible for his heartbreak. Or maybe he's to grumpy and introvert, so nobody can get in. Is this really what I want? Didn't I promise myself to at least get to know people first?
What if you meet someone that you have a medium-interest in, but he on the other hand has managed to develop a pretty big interest in you. Maybe you think that if he sees something so great between you and is willing to go through a lot of hazzle - perhaps you should give it a shot? He could have found something that you're just so cynical to see. You risk a try, which goes by and you still don't feel a thing. You definitely should have gone with your basic instinct... I was there last fall, I gave it a try but it didn't change a single thing. There was nothing to get. I wouldn't say I regret it, because it taught me to trust myself. If I don't see a relationship in the future with a guy, then trust it, don't do it just for his sake!
But what if the roles are the opposite? You're this girl who has a major interest in a guy which shows you no sign, what so ever, on a mutual feeling. Should you push him? Push him into giving it a try, even if he doesn't really want to? Or should you just leave him alone? And if it really is the deal everybody says it is: He's just shy, give him time, you both miss out on something great. Or you've just spared yourself a heartbreak... But what if you really make an effort to get to know him and when you finally do it's just to realize that his nothing for you? And you'll be responsible for his heartbreak. Or maybe he's to grumpy and introvert, so nobody can get in. Is this really what I want? Didn't I promise myself to at least get to know people first?
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Postat av: Dennis
what i find important is living a life without regrets. 50 years from now, you can look back and say "at least i gave it a shot. i tried" instead of "hmm i wonder what would've happened if i gave it a shot"
try all your options! then you really know that what you have is really what you want
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